The other side of all this is that I think that there is a great opportunity for immense growth within our ways ... and also a crying need for personal responsibility. Although much of the physical end of what we do is great good fun, if pursued on the deeper levels it requires much work and commitment to find what you seek - to grow into the person you wish to be.

If you want to get to know my Turns Ons/Turn Offs and more about my  interests, look me up on Fetlife under the name Barbary and say hello.  I love meeting new people and making new friends.

I think there are many ways to do what it is that we do. So we need to relax and let each other do their own thing. We're all perverts here. If you don't like the way I do something, don't let the door hit you on the ass as you exit my world. Enjoy. Life isn’t forever.